Dogs and Cats

“Please, please let’s go for a walk”. Her eyes fixed on mine, never wavered.

“But Sable, it’s nearly 90 degrees outside and the humidity is hovering around 70 percent. I don’t think it’s a good idea.”

“Please,” she repeated with those expressive eyes.

“Ok, a short walk. Go get your leash.” I gave in. It was early enough on a July Saturday that the pavement hadn’t become too hot for her paws. I pulled out of the drawer her soft, protective paw boots, which she doesn’t like but will accept if that is the price for a summer walk.

Sable pirouetted and ran to the laundry room, where her harness and leash are kept on a blue wooden peg, two feet from the floor, just the right height for her to reach.

Sable is a dog of indeterminate ancestry. She is neither wolf nor shepherd, hound nor terrier. She is approximately 20 inches tall and weighs 25 pounds, with short fur of a rich, deep brown hue, hence her name. She has a narrow white collar that dips onto her chest like a small white pendant, and a short black velvet muzzle.  Her small black ears stand at attention as if waiting for a signal. The mold was definitely broken when she was born. I don’t think there can be a duplicate. I wish I could have her cloned because she is the most perfect companion ever, and I know she has an expiration date.

Her golden eyes are alive with the vocabulary of a college professor. They communicate very effectively, and what she can’t convey with her eyes she passes to her tail. If her tail can’t make you understand, then her whole body gets into the act, quivering, pointing, circling, or hopping foot to foot. Sable is an active listener and patiently absorbs any manner of conversation from religion to geology, movies to politics. She puts her paw on your leg in affirmation or her chin on your lap if you are sitting. She rarely disagrees, but can let you know if she is unhappy with a low guttural sound or quiet mewling.

Sable is a rescue. A real rescue. Three years ago, on my way home from a meeting across town, I drove past her little form sitting in a puddle in a vacant lot on the side of Tanque Verde Road during a monsoon. Abandoned. She couldn’t have been more than a few weeks old, too young to have run away from home on stubby little legs and too plump to have been a feral dog. She had been living in someone’s home, fed regularly, and then disposed of for an unknown reason.  How does a person abandon a helpless puppy near a busy street in a storm? She looked confused. I pulled over in the nearest safe spot, got out of the car, and walked back to her through the downpour. She was shivering, not from cold but from fright. Back in my car, I sat with her in my lap, giving her sips of water poured into my palm from a water bottle. She lapped it up little by little until nearly half the bottle was empty. She stopped shivering.  I put her in the passenger seat on an old towel that I had thrown into the car in case I was caught in the predicted downpour. She immediately curled up and went to sleep. She didn’t move for the thirty-minute trip home to a suburban community outside Tucson. Once in the house, she explored each nook and cranny and pronounced that she was indeed home by jumping into my lap, reaching up to lick my face, then jumping down and peeing on the floor in front of me. The deal was sealed.

As all pet parents know, the creatures have a way of creeping into our hearts and taking residence in our minds. They become a priority, especially for a single person. I know Sable will be there to greet me with enthusiasm each day when I return from work. She doesn’t care if it was a good day or not because, for her, my presence makes her day great. She doesn’t withdraw with silent moodiness like my ex-husband if I don’t read her mind. She accepts the attention I give her with total love. Sometimes, I become absorbed in the day-to-day demands of my job or social relationships. She is always there when I resurface to the moment, waiting patiently with full devotion.

Sable is small enough that I can take her with me when I run errands. She loves car rides. She hops into her booster seat and waits to be snapped into the harness. I am able to take her into most of the stores where I shop. She sits obediently in a cart or walks quietly by my side. She ignores entreaties to leave my side, but accepts friendly pats as her due. I can’t take her grocery shopping in the store, but I can do pick-up. She knows the delivery girls at Fry’s, eagerly anticipating their friendly greeting. She loves a stop at the bank, knowing as we approach the drive-up window that she will get a treat. She delights in her puppucino at Starbucks. She appreciates my Sirius XM music, especially the Elvis channel. Sometimes we go for a longer ride to the mountains or to visit friends in Carefree. She passively watches the scenery, but when she hears a big rig eighteen-wheeler approach, she gets all excited, stands up in her seat, and watches for it to pass, ears pricked forward and tail waving ninety knots to nothing. I think in a former life she was a long-haul trucker.

Recently, she has learned to tolerate my friend, Colin. He has become a regular visitor, and she was very stand-offish at first. Now she grudgingly makes a space for him next to me on the sofa if he stays after dinner. He knows she has first dibs on wherever she wants to lie. He learned very quickly that he needed to accommodate her preferences.

Luckily, he has Marcus, a big yellow tabby cat, at home, so he understands the pecking order for guests in an animal’s domain. I’ve met Marcus. He is very sweet in his catty way. His green eyes pierced me, searching the depths of my reliability. He sat out of arm’s length, assessing me and, I’m sure, questioning my motives for being in his house. He allowed me to stroke him on his terms. He walked away with a tail held high as if to say, “You’re ok, but don’t let this go to your head. It is a temporary situation.” He is the product of a broken home and a custody battle. He was shuffled from home to home for about six months until Colin’s ex decided she didn’t want the responsibility. According to Colin, Marcus is shy of any other commitment.

We anticipate the day when we might introduce Sable to Marcus. Sable loves everyone unless they demonstrate by action or harsh words that they are untrustworthy. I insist Sable is open to any relationship, and he claims Marcus would be okay when he gets to know me a little better. There is a hesitation about the right moment to make the introduction. If it doesn’t go well, what will it mean to OUR relationship? We are taking our friendship slowly toward a deeper connection out of deference to our four-legged roommates. It is probably a very good thing to move slowly since both of us were burned in the past. Basing a romantic life on the acceptance of our pets, maybe, not so much.

Mussolini in a Fur Suit

It is said that even dictators can have a good side. Mussolini, who ruled Italy in the 1920s, 30s, and 40s as an evil fascist tyrant, gained support because he made the trains run on time. Our home has been run on a schedule for eight years by our own little Mussolini – a benevolent dictator. Her name is Nunney Catch, a six-pound gray and white cat. She made it clear what the agenda was from the day she entered our house. She was between five and eight years old according to the vet when she came to live with us. A special needs adoption. She came with some medical problems that were easily handled over the years with our compassionate vet, Dr. Medler.

Nunney Catch

From the very beginning, Nunney decided she wanted to go to bed in my office at night with the door closed. Promptly at 8pm, she would announce bedtime. If she was sitting on my lap, she got up, jumped to the floor, and looked at me until I got up to take her to her room, give her fresh water and a treat, turn out the light, and close the door. If the door wasn’t closed, she would come out again and repeat the process, staring at me until I followed her to her bed and then close the door. When new cats were added to the family, she still insisted on going to her room at night. She didn’t care if one or the other cats joined her as long as her door was closed. I always knew when it was 8pm because she would find me to let me know it was bedtime.

Every morning when the office door was opened, she walked to the kitchen to get her medication that Ken administered along with a treat. She waited beside the kitchen island without fail. We never had to coax her or force her to have her meds. She obviously knew they were good for her.

Nunney nestled in my drawer if I didn’t close it quickly

Nunney also insisted on eating her dinner (canned cat food) at precisely 3pm. It started out to be 4pm, but she upped the time about two years ago. If I was sitting down, she climbed up beside me, tapped me on the shoulder with one paw, and look deeply into my eyes to tell me it was dinnertime. I never had to look at the clock. She was precise. If I was not in my chair, she would find me and let me know she needed her dinner. She would then walk to the kitchen and parade around and around the kitchen island in a clockwise direction until the food was dished up and presented to her. She had access to dry cat food all day but was very insistent on her canned food in the afternoon. When I was unavailable, she gave the same directions to Ken at the appropriate time. He followed orders as well.

Nunney was a very sweet girl. She was the possessor of a loud vibrating purr. She was amenable to anyone who petted her. She liked treats and yelled at the top of her voice when she delivered a toy to us to let us know she wanted a reward for the gift. We adopted two cats after we had Nunney. She was the smallest of the three by far, but master of the house. If she wanted a toy they were playing with, they backed off, if she wanted to eat from their dish, they backed off. She had first claim on my lap and snarled and hissed if either of the others tried to usurp her.

A few weeks ago, Nunney began a new behavior. A puzzling behavior. We had a cat many years ago named Phoebe. She was a small tuxedo cat with an enormous personality that belied her dainty six-pound size. When she died, we buried her in our backyard under a slate marker. There she has been for fifteen years, long before we adopted Nunney. Nunney liked to go outside with us when we sat on the patio in the morning or afternoons. She didn’t like the rocky backyard; it was too sharp on her little paws, so she stayed on the patio. Nunney began to ask to go outside every morning as soon as she got up. She went directly to the sliding door and sat looking into the yard until we opened it. She didn’t wait for us to go outside with her. She purposefully traversed the patio; then, with delicate steps, walked across the rocks to the slate marker over Phoebe’s grave. She sat on the marker for a few minutes and would lick the slate, then turn around and walk back into the house. The ritual lasted about two minutes total. We watched this pattern quizzically for days and I video-recorded it because it was so unusual. She had not met Phoebe and certainly was not aware we buried her in that place. It had been years before we even knew Nunney, even before Nunney was born. I remarked to Ken that Nunney was telling us something.

Ten days ago, Nunney showed signs of dying. She had not been ill or injured. She stopped eating, stopped drinking, became incontinent and lethargic. Her old spark was gone. I checked her out all over and she didn’t appear to be in pain anywhere. Her systems were shutting down. It happened quickly. We kept her comfortable and near us, but she didn’t respond in her usual way. Nunney died in the middle of the night, January 4. I found her still and quiet in the morning.

We mourn our little Mussolini. Things are not the same in our household. For those who have been close to animals and experienced their short life span, you understand the grief that comes when our dearest fur babies die. Their remarkable spirits are woven into the fabric of every day. Even the feathered and scaled ones find ways into our hearts. We buried Nunney in the backyard next to Phoebe and placed a marker above her. I believe that was what she was telling us with her three-week morning ritual. I’m grateful that she did not linger and become sick. She instinctively knew she was coming to the end of her days. She communicated in her fashion to prepare us. I’m always amazed at the intuition and communication abilities of animals when we take the time to know them. We are thankful she was in our lives. She made an indelible impression.

The schedule in our home has gone to heck. The trains no longer run on time. Oliver and Sadie don’t have anyone demanding dinner on their behalf at 3pm. They haven’t figured out a timetable. Now they are fed in the afternoon – maybe early evening, but never at a precise time. I don’t have a timekeeper to remind me. It is strange albeit liberating not to have to referee at dinnertime to keep Nunney from gobbling up all their food. They eat side by side without having me watch over them. Oliver assumed the role of lap cat when I settle down in the evenings. The door is always open to my office because Nunney no longer insists on her private time. If I get up in the middle of the night, as I’m wont to do, I don’t worry about waking anyone when I go to my desk. Our house feels empty even with two cats entertaining us with their cat antics.

Nunney’s spirit does abide. I know she’s looking over us, probably rolling her eyes at the disorder of our lives. She’ll make sure things are on schedule in heaven.

A Ringtail Tale

Originally posted on A Way with Words Blog

“Diana,” Julie, our receptionist called my desk, “there is a kitten on the rail outside the office. I’m going to bring it in before it falls.”

“Sure,” I said and left my desk to see what she was talking about.

We owned a small property management company, and our office was on the second floor of a building in a commercial area of Tucson. The pebble concrete open stairway was the only way up to the landing outside our door. The rail around the landing was the barrier that kept us from falling to the parking lot thirty feet below. A kitten walking on that rail was doing a highwire act with no net.

In Julie came with a small orange ringtail cat. She set him on the floor of the reception area, and he pranced into the main office, a prince coming to assess his kingdom. There was no hesitation. He did not appear frightened or intimidated to be in a foreign place. He held his ringed tail up proudly and acknowledged everyone in the office with a short visit as he toured each nook and cranny. It was obvious he had been cared for, no feral cat he. He was plump and confident. I followed him around to see what he would do. I began talking to him.

“I’m Ringer,” he told me in a telepathic way.

His Elegance, Ringer

I announced his name to everyone. I asked Julie to take petty cash to the Walgreens down the block and buy a litter box, cat litter, food, and bowls to make our visitor welcome for his short stay with us. We made posters to put up around the building. The only residential parcel on the block was an apartment complex behind our office building. It was sectioned off by a six-foot plus fence at the back of our parking lot. We made a poster for the apartments with Ringer’s picture and details to put up wherever people might see them. Ringer set about making himself at home charming each of our agents and employees.

My husband was out of town but due back the next morning. We had a cat at home, Phoebe (you can read about her in a separate blog post, 9/19). She was a demon cat and I knew she would not be amenable to adding to the family. No one else was immediately willing to take Ringer home. At the end of the day, I said Ringer could stay in my husband’s office for the night and we’d decide what to do with him if we didn’t get any response to the posters. It was a Friday night.

I picked Ken up at the airport and said we needed to make a short detour to the office before going home.

“What’s up?” he asked suspiciously.

“Just something I want you to see.”

When we got to the office I opened the door to his office and out came Ringer. “Where did you get that cat? It’s not staying here.”

I filled him in on Ringer’s backstory as best I could and said we were trying to find his home. Ringer did his part weaving in and out of Ken’s legs, looking up, making clever little meow sounds asking to be his best friend. It worked, Ken succumbed to his spell quickly.

“Ok. He can be here for the time being but we need to find him a home.”

Several weeks later, Ringer had established himself as the official office greeter. Everyone who came in, client, tenant, or applicant was checked out. He ran to the door whenever it was opened to see what new friend he could make. We had a policy with new tenants who had dogs that they had to bring the dogs into the office for an interview before we rented to them. The whole office is animal crazy so it was our way of getting to know lots and lots of dogs. Ringer also liked dogs and would make a quick acquaintance when they dropped by. If the dogs were friendly, he would stand by during the interview in the conference room, if not he would disappear back into the office.  He was never intimidated but he was respectful of others.

Ringer especially liked to hang out in Ken’s office. If Ken left for a minute, Ringer would curl up on his chair. Otherwise, he would stretch out on the desk or snuggle up in the visitor chair. From time to time, he would wander the rest of the office checking on each person. Everyone adored him and enjoyed his company. He loved it when the printer started and would run to the cabinet it was on to stand by to see what came out. He was a great poseur when the camera came out.

Ringer stayed in the office every night alone. I took him to the vet that specialized in felines around the corner from our office. He pronounced him fit and healthy and said he was probably four to six months old. He also said he should be castrated. Ouch! I wasn’t sure I knew him well enough to authorize that act but since no one had stepped up to claim him, I did. We took him home after the operation to watch over him. Phoebe let it be known she did not approve. She would walk up and slap him in the face when he was resting on his little bed. Small as she was she packed a powerful punch. She hissed, she spat, she growled – in every way telling him he was an intruder. I spent time with her telling her she was still queen and that he was recovering from surgery and would go back to the office in a few days. I don’t think she bought it. We had to quarantine him to keep him safe.

Taking over the bosses desk

I took him back to the office after a few days and he was happy to be in his friendly environment. We started taking him home on weekends because we enjoyed his happy personality. He was the yang to Phoebe’s yin. Phoebe adapted, sort of. Ringer learned to stay out of her way. Then we began taking him back and forth every day. Ken always left earlier than I did to go to work so Ringer was my passenger. He liked the car ride to and from the office, especially when I played classical music on the radio. He would get into his carrier instantly when I put it down whether to go home or back to the office. Eventually, he grew to be fifteen pounds and too heavy for me to lug up and down the stairs every day. We made the decision that he was our home cat and Phoebe would just have to like it or lump it. It was a little nerve-wracking to leave them alone the first time without putting him in a separate space. We didn’t know if we would come home to war or peace. They worked it out. Ringer gave Phoebe a wide berth and she pretended he didn’t exist.

Ringer supervising the printer
Ringer, relaxing at home

Phoebe was my all-the-time cat. If I was home, she was with me, beside me, on my lap, sleeping with us. Ringer found his own place and stayed out of the way. Ringer adopted three stuffed pets, a yellow duck, a gray mouse, and a brown teddy bear. Each was two to three inches high. He carried them around with him one by one. Sometimes he would bring one or the other to us – meowing as he walked into the room to let us know he had a gift. He would lay it at our feet to share his special toy with us.

When Phoebe died, I had a talk with Ringer and told him he was now my support animal. He understood and from that day he came to sit on my lap, he slept with us at night and he hung around both of us all the time. He would bring his three buddies to bed at night, putting them at the foot of the bed. Then during the day he would take them one by one from the bed and play with them or leave them in other rooms. But always he would tuck them into bed each night. He enjoyed a cocktail at cocktail hour – a martini glass of water with a dash of water added. He liked being a part of the party.

Ringer was an indoor/outdoor cat who the entire neighborhood got to know. He was always friendly and curious. When he died, we heard from neighbors how much he would be missed. All the office staff mourned his passing too. Of course, no one misses him as much as we do. He is buried in our backyard with his three pets – mouse, teddy and duck, but at a great distance from Phoebe. Years later our cat, Oliver, goes to the marker slate at Ringer’s grave daily to sit and contemplate his domain in the backyard. I believe there is a spiritual connection between them.

Ringer, enjoying his martini (water)
Oliver at Ringer’s grave